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Characteristics of Attachment Issues

Children with Reactive Attachment Disorder often show the following symptoms.

  • Project an image of self-sufficiency
  • Superficially charming and engaging
  • Intense inner feelings of self hate and insecurity
  • Need to control everything
  • Internalized toxic shame
  • Lacks play, fun, or enjoyment skills
  • Lacks cause/effect thinking
  • Lacks conscience
  • High pain tolerance
  • Hypervigilance
  • Destructive/cruel behaviors
  • Lacks trust
  • Lack of personal responsibility
  • Feels empowered by repeatedly saying "No"
  • Limited ability to regulate their affect
  • Avoid being praised and recognized as worthwhile
  • Avoid being loved
  • Lack of cooperative play

Physical, emotional, social, mental, and spiritual health are all affected by RAD.

What do children feel?

These are just a few of the statements that children from the ages of two and up have made to me about being RAD.

Imagine if you can...

Feel physical pain when loved.
Feel so angry and hurt that you can't stand to be in your body.
Know that you are unlovable and can prove it.
Never feel love, guilt, empathy, or need.
Believe that every adult is stupid and needs to be controlled.
Have no favorite blanket, toy, pet, or person because they are always taken from you.
Must always be in control to stay alive.

More Information

If you want to learn more about RAD, you can contact Rhonda Lettington personally, or attend one of her numerous seminars across the country. You can also consult any of the organizations mentioned on this site.



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